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Eroticism in the Shires


 Eroticism is the exploration of feelings and emotions motivated by sex and sexuality.

So not sex itself then....

Its easy to get confused and see being erotic as smutty, taboo, kinky or even unacceptable behaviour of someone in a committed relationship. 
How many giggle at the word 'penis' and wouldn't know how to appropriately use handcuffs or god forbid a strap on.

Well unbeknownst to many and keep it to yourself but people have sex....its kinda how we got here....

But that's where the difference is, being an erotic sexually powerful human is mostly frowned upon when actually its the best way to a mutually fulfilling sex life. 

Thens there time, a quick hows your father or the regular in the dark bunk up after the takeaway on a Saturday night. We all have families, children, careers, gym memberships and homes to maintain. 

So start the process slowly, sexting isn't just for the Tinder© generation you know. 
Are you looking forward to seeing them later? Then tell them.
I don't need to remind responsible adults that you need to make sure your texts/photos go to the right place and not your mother in law of course..! 

  • Learn to love and accept the person and physicality you have right now. 
  • Doubt the airbrushed media darlings
  • Touch yourself (you know what I mean...wink, wink)
  • Find out what you like 
  • Communicate
  • If you want to do something and don't how to, then ask, someone will know.
  • Feel the electric of touching and being touched

True eroticism comes from within, it makes you attractive to others (if that's where you are at) and brings a whole new level to love making. 

Think back to when you 2 first began, the stolen glances, the furtive touches, the lust before it vanished along with car seat reviews and strictly on a Saturday. 
Amen, girlfriend we have all been there.

For one night don't talk about your mortgage rate, talk about what you want to do and have done to you.

If the object of your affections still doesn't notice, then don't let the moment pass you by, if needs be just make the first move. 

Psychotherapy with a sex affirmative therapist is a great way to talk through your fears, hopes and wishes for a satisfying psychical life. 
Contact me to learn more about sexual empowerment techniques. 

Men find powerful women extremely erotic...





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